How to balance being a single mom and dating
A big challenge is after you've been dating someone for a while if it doesn't work out and your child is attached, it can be very difficult.
Kids are resilient though, and as long as you (the parent) put on a brave face, your child will too.
We are always thinking, "If I only had him, I would be happy."Don't get me wrong, it's lovely to have someone in your life. It's my intention to enjoy every bit of my single freedom until I do finally find that perfect guy and take residence in the perfect house (or, as I would prefer, a penthouse condo with a view of the beach). So many of us can't spend 15 minutes alone with ourselves.
It's lovely to have someone to share special moments, secrets, affection and sexy time. So you might ask, "What is there to appreciate about being alone—not having a date on every major holiday or even for a Friday night? We're on our cell phones, on online dating services, hanging out with friends, family, co-workers and basically anyone who will put up with us until it's time to go to bed.
, acknowledges that stepping back into the dating world can be tough, not only for the single parent, but for the kid, too.
Here, she reveals to how she gets her important alone time with a 'tween in the house, as well as her rules on the tricky and challenging process of dating as a single mom.
My advice would be to set your own dating rules and abide by them.
I have a wonderfully supportive family; without them I would probably be lost.
You secretly enjoy the excitement to the mundane reality of a relationship.
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So many of my married friends will say "I miss this girls' night out ... Once that's purged and a clean new space emerges, you can write a new chapter for yourself in which you are being loved and loving someone back. This is a great time to follow your bliss and pursue your dreams. When you're in a relationship, you're constantly weighing the impact of your choices on the man or the relationship as a whole, but when you're single, you can be as selfish as you please. When I tell my family not to contact me during my free weekends, they don't. It's perfectly acceptable that I focus on myself when I have the space and freedom to do so. Most women in relationships spend all their time and energy on the man, the family, the relationship.
You'll notice that when you treat yourself well, men will too. Now is the time to go after that promotion, renovate your condo, get that degree or certification, make a career change. If I tell a friend I am treating myself, they ask if they can come with me and treat themselves. I'm not talking about being neglectful of responsibilities, I'm talking about owning your energy, your time, all of your resources and spending them as you please without permission or approval from anyone else. In the end, there's very little left over for themselves.