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Once back home, he has to prepare dinner for the family (hence the chicken breasts), eat, bathe the kids, get them in their pajamas, read to them and put them to bed no later than nine p.m.If all goes according to plan, he’ll have about an hour to clean the house and watch “Survivor.” Then he’ll sleep for seven hours, wake up at a.m., rouse the kids, get them dressed, make them breakfast and drop them back at preschool and summer camp, all before seven a.m., at which point he’ll go back to work making Tyvek at the nearby Dupont plant and the process will more or less replicate itself.“We’re going swimming on Thursday; that’s gonna be fun! AJ’s adoption was “private” — his biological mother became pregnant with him at just fourteen years old — and Lippa’s had him since his birth in July 2012.Eli was adopted through foster care, and his background is more obscure.“I always knew it was gonna be hard, but not this hard. Or some form of chicken nugget or chicken tender.” So while sushi may seem a minor indulgence to most, it’s a rarity for this 35-year-old single father of two-hopefully-soon-to-be-three children.It’s the simple things you take for granted.” Like going out to eat, he says. What makes Lippa’s single fatherhood remarkable is that it was, and is, entirely elective.
He settles into one of the many empty black booths for what will be a welcome break from his myriad familial obligations.
“They always thought they’d find the right partner to do it with, but when that doesn’t happen, the urge for parenting doesn’t go away.” Multiple adoption professionals say this small but perceptible uptick isn’t reflected in the numbers because of the industry’s shoddy approach to record keeping.
There’s no national database where adoption workers can log their cases and study national adoption trends.
Why did Lippa — by all means an affable, smart, successful man, a rising star within the Du Pont organization, who spends his free time watching reality TV and playing volleyball; a single, successful, highly eligible early-30s bachelor who could do whatever the hell he wanted without having to explain or excuse his behavior to anyone — trade in that life to become a father, a man who’s 15 pounds heavier and who now spends his Mondays stressing about having enough chicken breasts and for whom Philadelphia rolls are a godsend?
“I’ve just always wanted kids,” he explains matter-of-factly, shrugging, as if the question and its answer were so obvious that the former needn’t even be asked.